A Deep Dive into Online Dating

Story by Taneal Lockstadt, Kael Blackburn and Cassy Nicholls

Technology has made it easier to stay connected to those we love so it’s no exception when it comes to dating. As the use of technology increases, finding love online is becoming increasingly popular. While most believe dating apps have changed the landscape of dating for the better, there are some that believe there are more significant disadvantages.

“[I] found that a big chunk of people in today’s dating don’t want to put the effort into the long term, a lot of quick gratification seems to be popular with modern dating. So I wish that people would truly think about what they’re looking for and be open about that from the beginning,” says Amber, 25-29.

With dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble, Hinge and many others, finding a partner comes down to pressing a button and swiping right to say ‘interested’ or left to say ‘not interested’. What is meant to be a place for connection has slowly become a game for external validation.

By creating a google form and sharing it across social media, we were able to get the insider scoop on dating online. 

From 16 respondents, 25 per cent say they were successful with finding love online compared to 19 per cent who said they have not been successful. One respondent, James, says dating apps can be successful when used responsibly. Being able to meet people you wouldn’t normally meet organically is an advantage when it comes to online dating. “I met my now girlfriend through an online dating website and have now been dating 5.5 years. I never would have met her if it weren’t for a dating app,” says James.

Dating apps come with many advantages such as convenience, increase in options, meeting new people and building confidence. However, there are disadvantages that can outweigh the positives. With any social media account or dating profile it’s easier than ever to hide behind the screen which presents concerns over safety, increased pressure and knowing if you’re effectively getting to know someone.

Here are some ways you can stay safe online:

  1. Keep personal information limited
  2. Be clear about your expectations and ensure that you are both on the same page
  3. Meet in public
  4. Tell someone you trust where you are going and who you are meeting
  5. If you become uncomfortable with the date or the person, leave
  6. Always trust your gut

Survey respondent, Claudia, sums up the experience saying, “It’s been an overall Rollercoaster of fun, disappointment, happiness, cringe, new friendships, relationships etc.” 

While online dating is an exciting prospect to expand your dating pool into the online world, it’s important to keep safety in mind when connecting with strangers. It’s a testament to the evolution of how we connect with each other, and like everything the positives are coupled with the negatives.